Life can be heavy sometimes. Am I right? No matter what you’re up against, your battle can feel suffocating. It’s consistent, messy, unique, but there is one thing that it isn’t.
It isn’t defeat.
We as humans are pretty damn resilient. That whole “falling and getting back up” thing wouldn’t be a thing if there wasn’t something actually to it. We’re always shifting, adapting, and craving more for ourselves. As human as it is, these changes come with growing pains too.
I’m an outgoing gal. I gather that it’s hard to believe someone as extroverted as myself could be overwhelmed or socially overstimulated during peak wedding and workshop season. Summer time is full of fantastic events that take my breath away and leave me feeling so inspired, but those highs can follow with lows.
At the end of last month, I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I allowed social media to crush my soul, to consume my time, and to make me insecure. The worst part about these platforms is that we can build a case against ourselves without anyone else’s help. Whether it’s jealousy of what someone else has or feeling shaded by a peer without real support for that, we are often talking ourselves into looking too far into something that will ultimately distract us from being our best inner lady boss.
I took it upon myself to take drastic measures, and treat it as a science project. With 3k friends on Facebook, I wondered how easy it would be to walk away without notice. I needed to maintain my business forums and I didn’t want to cut off the entire world.
The biggest lesson that I learned was that we walk on eggshells entirely too much at our own inconvenience. If you find yourself doing that on social media, if it isn’t FUN ANYMORE, then take a step back. This doesn’t mean shutting down your business resources. This doesn’t mean you have to disappear. Remember that YOU control your narrative. Should you find that you feel you are losing grasp of that-take a step back.
…I promise! The moral of this story isn’t “delete Facebook.” I honestly love Facebook the most of all my online outlets, but it was the right thing for me when I needed it. There is nothing wrong with looking at your life and figuring out where it is that you get stumped or burnt out or anxious or distracted. There is NOTHING wrong with asking for help or outsourcing. The control is yours for the keeping. Make sure you’re keeping your head in the game.
REMEMBER: The best you serves others best.
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